Paula Personality Type, MBTI

Paula personality type is ENTJ, and my problem is with the MBTI. I think that the MBTI is very unfair to the ENTJ. My ENTJ husband is a great father and has a very good job. The only problem is that he has a short temper, and he's so stubborn that he can't think of anything but his own issues. When I tell him of my problems, he always gets so angry that he can't think of anything but me. I'm not asking him to get my problem solved, I'm asking him to - at the very least - stop being such a jerk about it, because he brings it all on himself. I'm tired of being the bad guy in this picture!